Hello, my love
I'm Sofia, your guru on the journey from lover girl to goddess in love
Masters in Positive Psychology & Psychology of Coaching
Certified Psychic Intuitive
Trained Priestess, Reiki Practitioner, & Shamanic Healer
10+ years Confidence Facilitator & Career Coach
Became a goddess in love
My Story
My 24th birthday fell on Full Blue Moon, and I love a theme.
Being an astrology girlie, I went all out for my birthday party. There was a tarot reader, blue moon beers, and a moon circle with wishing paper in the yard for guests to write out their dreams and surrender them to the magic of the moon. It was a vibe.
24 ended up being a big year for me. The energy of this Full Blue Moon was that of a road opener – helping to forge a new path ahead, to move out of your comfort zone and into new territory – and it provided. I moved into my very own beautiful apartment complete with dark hardwood floors, high ceilings, and trees outside every window, so I felt like I lived in a treehouse. I landed the job of my dreams, and decided I was ready to manifest my man.
The next seven years I focused on 2 things: my career and finding love.
Career
Knowing exactly what the job of my dreams was, was a journey in itself. During college I was constantly future tripping, riddled with anxiety about what I was going to do with my life.
I became a Big Sister with Big Brothers Big Sisters to a thirteen-year-old girl while I was in college. She was struggling with her grades, friends, and confidence when we first met, and during our year together she completely transformed! I didn’t do much, but realized the impact positive role models can make on girls that age.
I was still unclear about my future when I studied abroad in South America, and even still when I went on a solo trip to do yoga teacher training in Cusco, Peru. I will never forget being at the Ashram, under a Full Moon, when it all clicked.
Girls confidence.
When I landed the job of my dreams at 24, that’s exactly what I was doing – I was a high school girls confidence facilitator for a nonprofit afterschool program. It was the best job ever.
Being the goal driven Aires Moon I am, I had my sight set on management. Each New Moon I would write a manifestation list, with my top affirmation being “I am Program Manager by 28 years old”.
I worked really fucking hard to make that happen. I led Selena Gomez through a confidence workshop, curated hundreds of hours of programming, designed highly impactful conferences for girls & their mentors.
And I did it! But those three years were riddled with anxiety, wondering if it was ever going to happen, tripping on my own future. I would say “I wish my future self could just come down and tell me when it’s all going to happen.”
That’s when I started going to psychics.
After I became Program Manager, my long-term goal shifted to having my own coaching practice, so I enrolled in University of East London’s Masters of Positive Psychology & Psychology of Coaching program, which explored the science of well-being and how to coach people to it. Brilliant.
During that time, I was charged with starting a new initiative at the organization – a program for helping young women ages 18-29 years old with their career confidence. I built a robust offer suite to guide young women to career clarity, landing the job of their dreams, navigating the first steps of their career with grace, and building skills that will take them to the next level.
All the while, I still had my long-term goal in sight.
Finding Love
After I decided I was ready to manifest my man at 24, I became desperate in my attempts. I would cast spells, write manifestation lists and pull oracle cards under each New Moon. Every time I’d pull an oracle card, I would get the card ‘love yourself’.
“I do love myself!” I’d think, frustrated, “the angels are wrong!”
The card reads: “Love Yourself. This card reminds you of how beautiful your mission, life, and soul are. You deserve happiness, and the most powerful way to bring it into your life is to be a source of it. Love yourself even if it doesn’t seem natural, and you’ll be a conduit for higher energy. Take time today to focus on at least one thing you appreciate about yourself. Your relationship with you is the most intimate one you’ll have in this lifetime. The more you love yourself, the more you can focus your energy specifically on the greater good.”
At the time, I wanted someone to love me so I could love me. I needed someone to need me so I would feel worthy. I put so much emphasis on the external validation I sought, my eyes glazed over when I read the card.
I started getting this card so frequently that I stopped pulling oracle cards all together.
7 years, a thousand bad dates, multiple repelled good guys, a breakup that gutted me, and a relationship so toxic it could be a bottle of tequila later, I finally understood what that card meant.
When I left my toxic relationship, I asked myself “why do I keep attracting weak, alcoholic men?” I realized the only thing I could control was myself.
I stopped drinking. I started cultivating my feminine energy, got a puppy, and ended up attracting a healthy masculine man that worshiped me & made me feel so safe. But if I hadn’t done the ‘pre-work’, I would have self-sabotaged from the beginning, and missed out on the greatest happiness I’ve ever experienced.
The ‘pre-work’?
Diving deep into the fundamentals of a healthy relationship. I learned about how to communicate effectively in relationships, understood and adjusted my attachment style, explored masculine and feminine energies in relationship, started healing my past relationship wounds and releasing limiting beliefs, embraced joy & fulfillment in every area of my life, and embodied my worthiness of a healthy, loving, committed relationship with a seriously sexy man that loves & adores me.
The ‘pre-work’ was loving myself.
Gabriel
Gabriel and I met IRL, doing something that brought us both a lot of joy. I knew from the moment I saw him that I loved him, but I was a changed woman. I relaxed into my worth and let him lead.
It turned out we were on the same page of our life book. We were both ready to start a family, leave LA, and grow in a committed monogamous relationship. We had similar values, particularly preferring dogs over people, we both enjoyed boxing, hiking, and listening to podcasts, among other shared hobbies, we handled conflict as a team, physical affection was both of our love languages, and he made me feel safe, protected, heard, valued, and adored.
We’re both Leos and have four of the same planets in the same place in our charts!
I found love. And it was star aligned.
I left my beloved apartment and moved in with Gabriel almost immediately. We had our list of baby names thoughtfully curated, wedding song selected, and were madly in love when we packed up the house to move to Reno, NV for his new job.
We talked wedding plans the whole way up to the bike park where we met my best friend, her boyfriend, and Gabe’s boys for a day of mountain biking as a last hoorah in LA, a few days before we were scheduled to pick up our U-Haul and begin our next adventure of life together.
Gabriel died on the mountain that day.
Loss
There is no feeling like it. The way loss cracks you open while simultaneously shutting you out from the rest of the world. You’re frozen in disbelief, watching everyone’s lives move on while you stand and scream from every cell of your being, a scream only you can hear. Incomparable.
It took 8 months for my soul to return to my body. 8 months for me to start feeling like me again. I might have thought or said I was within that time, but I was lying. And I’ll never be the same.
I saw a Medium 10 days after the accident. She connected with Gabriel and had so much to say. It was deeply profound, incredibly comforting, and sparked something inside of me.
I needed to learn how to do that for myself.
I went full spiritual, starting with Reiki training, then Angel reading, Tarot Card reading, and Akashic Record channeling. I joined a Mediumship circle and got certified in Soul Reading.
I speak to Gabe, a lot.
I’ll never be “over” losing Gabriel. I will never be grateful for the accident. I would’ve been more than happy moving to Reno, having babies and devoting my life to our family.
What I will say is that my grief has given me a higher perspective on the journey I took to align with him, what made our relationship healthy, and has provided me with the clarity on my mission with coaching women.
My Mission
Sometimes I wonder if I had loved myself harder, sooner, would I have met Gabriel before I did? Would I have gotten more time with him? He was ready for me two years before we met, just waiting.
But I wouldn’t have had the capacity to receive his love then. I didn’t believe I was worthy.
Now it is my mission to help women love themselves deeply & completely, heal their wounds & remember their worth, discover & practice the fundamentals of a healthy relationship, and align with soulmate frequency so when it comes into their lives, they’re ready to receive it.
Because we deserve to be worshipped.
Socials
